You probably just read the title above and thought, “Wait… what??? You? Love being single? Nuh uh. Isn’t getting married, like, one of the biggest dreams of your life?
Yes, I will admit it is :).
But I’m not worried about it.
One of the areas I feel like I’ve really grown in is learning to wait for that special someone. I’m not perfect at it, but because of the Spirit’s continual work in me, I’m better than when I was (::ahem::) 3. If you asked me when I was five years old who I was going to marry, I probably could’ve– and would’ve — given a name.
Though I laugh about it now, it’s still a serious concern to a lot of young women. Who are you going to marry?
Now, I didn’t write this post with the intention of answering that question for you because, honestly, it’s a little out of my league 😉 I really and truly don’t know.
A lot of people also like to ask me if I have a boyfriend. When I say that I don’t, then the next natural question is to ask why. To which I reply, “I don’t feel ready to be in any kind of relationship at this stage in my life.” — or something along those lines.
Petie, from All Things Bright and Beautiful, phrased it perfectly:
“Another reason I’m not worried about marriage is because I’m so excited. That may sound like an oxymoron, but I cannot wait to see who God will bring, when He will do it, and how. It may be years from now, or it may be tomorrow. But I know He’ll orchestrate everything in His perfect timing, so why should I be concerned?If I were being totally honest, I would say the idea of never marrying scares me. But that doesn’t mean I should worry myself to death over it, or I should just sit at home and wait for a guy to fall from the sky. One of these days, I believe God will point out That Special Someone and say, ‘There he is. You’re ready for him now.’ But that day is not today. Basically, what I’m trying to say is God didn’t give me these single years so I could sit around and wait; He gave them to me so I could live, embrace this life and live it to the fullest. So I’ll go on living and working and writing and serving and praying and drinking coffee. Right here. Right now. And that’s okay with me.”
Being only 16, I’ve got my work cut out for me before I get married.
I can barely chop up a tomato.
I still don’t know how to cook meat.
Matching socks in the laundry room makes my head spin.
I still don’t know how to love someone with a Christ-like love.
I still haven’t watched all of the Lord of the Rings (working on that).
And the list goes a lot longer than that.
Because it’s true. I have sooo much to learn about being a good wife, a good mom, and about pursuing God with all my heart so that I can love my (future) guy with the kind of love he deserves.
In these single years, I can learn & prepare to be the wife he needs (and, hopefully, wants).
And thus are the confessions & ramblings of a
hopeless hopeful romantic.
AND WUV. TWU WUV WILL FOWWOH ME FOHEVAH.